What is the Badassery Lifestyle?
Have you ever been so focused on one thing so much that your world could burn down around you and you wouldn’t notice? Like when you are cranking out content for a new course you are launching and trying desperately to meet a deadline. You are consumed. You sit hour after hour in front of your computer guzzling gallons of coffee so you don’t fall asleep. You don’t even take time to eat real meals; all you do is grab some chips and more coffee from the pantry and get back to your desk.
You push yourself harder to meet your deadline. So hard, you get irritated at any form of interruption. Your kids are driving you insane and you can’t help but snap at them with any question or request. Your husband’s even been tiptoeing around so he doesn’t set you off.
Then, before you know it, your head starts pounding. Your throat gets itchy. Your energy drops and you feel the aches taking over your body. All you want to do is wrap yourself in a comforter and hide out in bed for a week. Ugh! This is not fair. I’ve got work to do!
Guess what?!? That flu you just got was the Universe’s way of saying your life is out of alignment.
Do you really want to put stress on your marriage, scar your children, and put yourself out of commission for a week because you are ill? I didn’t think so.
Badassery isn’t all business all the time. Badassery is a lifestyle.
Here at Badassery Magazine, we use the Urban Dictionary definition of Badassery. It says, “Engaging in seemingly impossible activities and achieving success in a manner which renders onlookers completely awestruck.” Just typing this makes me want to scream YAAASSSSSSS at the top of my lungs.
That definition says so much. Let’s take “Engaging in seemingly impossible activities” for example. How many things do you do that fit this description? Maybe you started a business after you got laid off from your corporate job. Perhaps you are a single mom and work a full time job and have a side hustle. Wow! You are doing it!
But, it also doesn’t say a few things. I doesn’t say what success is. In fact, it doesn’t define success at all. It simply specifies achieving it in a way which renders onlookers completely awestruck. It leaves defining what success is completely up to you.
When you hear the word success, what pops into your head. Are you sitting on a yacht in the middle of the mediterranean sipping champagne? Or, is it looking at your bank statement seeing all the commas breaking up your account balance? Is that when you’ll finally feel like you’ve made it?
When you get to that point in the future, how do you feel? Will you be happy and content with everything that is right with the world?
When you are looking to the future and envisioning all the accomplishments you need to check off to finally be considered a success, it’s not really the achievement you are craving. You are craving the feeling you imagine you’ll have when you get it — that feeling of pride, the sense of accomplishment, a feeling of joy and gratitude, and the feeling of significance. We convince ourselves that checking off the success to-do list boxes will bring us these feelings. The truth is, checking boxes is not where those feelings originate. The feelings you are craving originate inside you — in your mind, in your heart, and in your soul.
Success is not a point in the future. Success is something you can experience with what you have right now — as you are — today. You already have everything you need to experience the feeling you are craving. All you have to do is tap into it.
Living the Badassery Lifestyle
As I mentioned earlier, badassery isn’t all business. Badassery is a lifestyle. This lifestyle is wheel made of many different spokes. We define them in seven different categories: Spirituality, Mind, Energy, Visibility, Relationships, Business, Body, and Community. The more in alignment you are with each spoke, the more fulfilled and successful you will feel.
Let’s go back to the beginning of this lovely article. What if you had taken some time to get some rest, eat a healthy meal (away from your desk), and drink some water? What if you took some time out when your kids asked you to play? What if you kissed your husband when you saw him and asked him how his day was going? How would you feel?
As you redefine success by today’s standards, how much more successful are you now? Were you even on track in the first example?
Don’t Do it Alone!
I hear you. The way I talk about it, it seems like it should be easy to do — but it is not. It’s fucking hard. You are essentially rewriting the way your brain is wired and erasing everything you’ve been taught growing into the person you are right now. Of course it is hard. It’s hard for all of us. But, therein lies the beauty. We are all flawed. We are all working to be successful and fulfilled. And, we need support to get there.
All of us are good at some part of our lives. You might be a business wizard. You may be a champion for health and wellness. Maybe you are great at relationships. Or, perhaps you are a light-worker. We can use each other’s strengths for support through community. You support others and they support you. That is what community is all about.
Don’t do it alone. You need people who unconditionally support you. Plus, you need people you can unconditionally support. That is why we created our exclusive membership community, The Badassery Lifestyle. This is where you go to quiet all the noise and distraction from Facebook, get meaningful support, and build long-lasting relationships.
Membership is now open. Join today for instant access to an awe-inspiring community of badass bosses who need you as much as you need them. Learn more below.
Kathy Rasmussen is the co-founder of Badassery Magazine and the co-host of the Badassery Podcast. She can truly see the gift in others when they can’t. Kathy is an idea cultivating machine and can strategically birth your idea to life. When she’s not busy connecting other entrepreneurs with fabulous experiences, you can find her being featured on NowThis, Bold TV, numerous interviews and podcasts. Kathy is passionate about owning who you are and stepping into the spotlight just as you are.
Kathy Rasmussen: adj. Creative ninja, wine warrior and community building artiste. “You’ve been rasmussened” I.e. exploded your business badassery. Not to be confused with the rasmussen popularit y poll. Syn. Kickass painter, sparkle sassmaker, CEO of awesome shit.