New Year’s Resolutions. It’s more than likely you will fail.
Reading that I feel a little harsh, but it’s just the cold hard facts. We’ve all made resolutions and failed. I’ve given up some on day 2 and day 15. I can openly and honestly admit, I’ve never made a New Year’s resolution and carried it on forever. A few years ago, I committed to no longer saying F*ck, but we all know how that ended. Last year I committed to going without alcohol for thirty days. I made it to day 15. There are a lot of reasons why we torture ourselves with resolutions. The hope of a better year, new feelings and really it’s just all buzz.
According to Forbes, 40% of Americans make New Year’s resolutions and yet only 8% achieve them.
So why don’t they actually work? It’s not because we are losers who don’t want to succeed or that we just like screwing up. It’s because keeping those resolutions is uncomfortable AF.
It’s easier to stay small. It’s so much easier to comfortable. It’s really freaking easy to just pretend like we never make them at all. We like being comfortable. We like our set ways. Even if deep down we know we are destined for something more, we stay comfortable. It’s WAY easier to snuggle up with some Netflix than get up and show the world what we are made of.
That’s what holds us back from finally peeling off the layers. What if it only took a small action to actually achieve our resolutions? What if that compounded effort was all it took to finally crush our New Year’s Resolutions? That’s exactly what it takes. The consistency of being extremely UNCOMFORTABLE or as we like to call it, the #uncomfortzone. Do you consistently hold yourself back from doing the things that you know will line up with your New Year’s Resolutions?
- Reaching out to that person we idle for advice and collaboration.
- Running around the block like a hot sweat betty.
- Talking to strangers (personally I fail hard at this).
- Signing up and saying yes to learning something new.
- Sharing your message daily.
- Showing your entire body instead of just that perfectly poised selfie.
- Asking for the sale. Making the sale. Receiving glorious amounts of sweet MFing cash.
These are all actions that compounded over time turn into HUGE momentum….but they are uncomfortable AF. They are itchy. These uncomfortable things are more than just mental. You can feel them deep in your stomach. Your body holds that uncomfortable feeling for you. It’s legit physical pain. What if you just pushed through the #uncomfortzone? What would you do differently to ensure those New Year’s resolutions stuck? How would it be different than what you are doing right now?
How would you rise up and say it’s my time? How would you play in the gap of the 1%?
Six Ways to Ensure Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick For Good.
#1- Accept the #Uncomfortzone
Embrace the fact that it’s going to be hard. Embrace the messy middle of all of it. What would you do differently if you just took a ride with those fears that you have? In fact, go ahead and let them play shotgun, just don’t let them drive. It’s going to be really, really, really uncomfortable and you are just going to do it anyways. Do you feel that pit in your stomach or those butterflies? Good, because you want them there. If it was easy you would stay the same. You would never grow AND you would never embrace that uncomfortable you need to feel. That’s when it gets really good. Look yourself in the mirror and just say, “this is going to be hard, but it’s going to be worth it”.
#2- Announce it
Nothing says uncomfortable like announcing your New Year’s resolutions to the world. Tell everyone you know, in fact don’t ever shut up about it. This is the year that I finally do ________. Your entire social media audience, your mom and your postman should know about it.
Take it one step further: Start by making a list. List out all of your New Year’s resolutions. Easy right?…WRONG. Now make a list of every reason why that resolution makes you uncomfortable. Is your resolution to show up daily online? Does doing a live video and sharing your message make you uncomfortable? Are you afraid someone might disagree or not like you? Write it down. Match up your resolutions and why they make you uncomfortable. Now share that with the world. Yes, everyone is about to see the real you and it’s going to be ok. Need a safe place to share, just to get you started? Share below or pop on over to our Facebook group, We Are Badassery.
#3- Schedule, Schedule, Schedule
The easiest excuse we give ourselves is that we didn’t have time. There’s just not enough time! Well there’s enough time for everything you make room for. So shove some time in for those New Year’s resolution. Not sure where to put it? 5am to 7am is one of my favorite places for extra time. If you got up just a little early every day Monday-Friday that’s an extra 10 hours a week. That’s an entire work day with a two hour lunch. Snack on that time for starters. All of that Facebook scrolling, time bitching about all the time you don’t have, there is a few more hours. You get my point here, schedule in the time to be successful.
#4- Document Your Everything
We are living in a time when our reality is social media. It’s a pretty badass time to be in and can be used to hold you accountable. Use your social media audience for support and document your progress. Share with them your New Year’s resolutions. Keep track of your milestones and share your progress. Plus how can you see how much closer you are getting to that goal if you aren’t tracking your progress? This step is the most commonsense, but something I have failed to do more times than I can count. Buy yourself a pretty notebook and get to documenting. Personally and publicly. Which leads us to step 5….
#5- Be Honest About the Process
Do you remember when we discussed how uncomfortable this was going to be? Now we have to be real about it. Documenting your progress is going to include some serious set backs. You are going to fail a few times.That’s how we become an expert in our field. We fail enough times that eventually we learn how to get back up like Beyonce. You are going to have ups and you are going to have downs. It’s completely acceptable to realize that there are two parts. Be honest with yourself about entire process. If you fall off the wagon and decided to get back on, that’s incredibly brave of you. Bravery is what we must arm ourselves with when we travel to the land of discomfort. Put your heart out there. The good, the bad, the messy, the incredible rockstar, just be honest.
#6- Set Realistic Expectations
Sometimes we bomb our New Year’s resolutions because they are completely unrealistic. We set goals like double our traffic size by January 31st or drop 100 pounds by spring break. These are really unlikely scenarios and you are just setting yourself up for disaster. We are motivated by achievements. If you want to achieve a goal, make it realistic. You can always reevaluate and extend it. That’s extra saucy and tons of fun to do. Ask yourself if your goal is achievable and if it’s aligned with where you are now? If you answered no, throw it out and start something realistic. I’m all for big goals, but I like to break them down into steps.
Click play below to watch me discuss my New Year’s resolution and the list of things that scare the crap out of me!
Cheers to you and cheers to slaying your 2018 New Year’s resolutions. Let us know what they are in the comments! How are you ensuring that this year will be your year? What New Year’s resolution ideas are brewing in your incredible space?
I’m SAMANTHA PARKER, the cofounder of Badassery Magazine.
Now I’m teaching others how to build their own online empires. Yes, empires. I believe that building and nurturing a sense community with your business is the key to massive success.