Life will never be handed to you.
It’s your job to create it. Life is so full of wonder and hope. There is so much glitter that is just waiting to rain on someone, but if you are waiting for the opportunity to come and smack you in your face, you will die waiting. I used to live my life for that next pay check. That next big break that was going to come along and swoop me up. I couldn’t figure out why some people just had this all figured out. They seemed to take all the sparkly trips and had their kids lined up like perfect little ducks.
Why did they get all of the opportunities while I struggled to make it through a work day? Why me?
That why me. That poor me attitude is what kept me without the opportunities. It kept me small, insecure and with a zero percent of thriving anywhere on my bleak horizon. What I really should have been saying was WHY NOT ME? A small but simple perception that could have changed everything. NOT is just a three letter word, I should have just shoved it in there. This was during my dark times as human. When I was busy bitching instead of just implementing.
So much has shifted since those days. Maybe one day I’ll write the novel to go along with it, but until then realize that my scope of vision has drastically changed. Simply by living in the WHY NOT ME state of life. I eliminated luck from my vocabulary and realized that I was going to die a miserable old women if I didn’t decide to liberate myself. Life seems really long, but it’ll pass you by in a nano second if you are waiting for shit to be delivered to you with a big bow.
Start Creating Your F*cking Opportunities
Create them already. Start reaching out to other people first. You know that women who is totally slaying life? Yeah that one. Reach out and ask her to lunch or hop on a video chat just to connect. If she says no, then ask ten more until you find your tribe. Do NOT wait for people to reach out to you. Create the opportunities yourself by asking others how you can collaborate together. Open your mouth and speak from your area of expertise. Open the doors for yourself. It’s up to you to get your foot in, just unlock your determination and roll on in.
Start with what you have right now. You don’t need another resource. You definitely can’t wait until some magical lottery payday to move forward. Just start where you are with what you have. There will never ever be a perfect time. Now is your perfect time.
Eliminate Your Fears
Any story you are currently attempting to tell yourself right now, is total and complete bullshit. I’ve heard it from hundreds of people just like you. The story that someone else is doing it already or the story that someone else is better than you. I’m sorry but there are a million burger shops and that doesn’t mean that yours can’t be the next number one. There’s actually a title for this type of BS you are so quick to throw down. It’s called the impostor syndrome. It’s literally the inability to see how amazing you are because you are consistently stuck in paralysis. You can’t move forward or grow because an imaginary person out in the world might call you a fraud. You live in a constant state of fear of not being good enough.
Even I can see how stupid this is. The easiest way to eliminate your fears and start creating those opportunities you dream of, is to just accept them. This might sound like the craziest thing you have ever heard. I bet you thought I was going to tell you that your fears are fake and blah blah. I tend to not sugar coat things, ever. You are going to have fears and they are very real. VERY REAL. Hell they might even keep you up at night. They might even show up in the most unusual places, but they are real. Instead of pretending like the aren’t there, I acknowledge them. I say hello and take them out for a spin, but they never get to drive. So yes, when I get scared AF (daily) I just say hello and then do it anyways. It’s like a mini adrenaline rush for your mind. I’m like whoa that was brave and then I give myself a mental high five and carry on like a badass.
In short, you are never going to eliminate the fears that keep you from creating opportunities. Instead you are going to do the scary shit anyways. Feels fucking freeing right?
Open yourself up
This is something you might want a glass of wine for. ARE YOU EVEN APPROACHABLE? What kind of vibe are you putting out to fellow business owners? I pulled a really cocky move not to long ago that would have been the biggest missed opportunity of my life. I got a little too big for my britches and let my ego take over. I didn’t want to accommodate the hours of a pretty big power house player who lives on the other side of the world. I almost costs us an incredible opportunity.
While you might not be shutting stuff down with your bad attitude, you might be with your own constrictions. Start saying yes a whole lot more. Every time I thought it wasn’t going to be worth it, it blew my expectations out of the water. EVERY OPPORTUNITY IS AN OPPORTUNITY. Start dropping lots of YES bombs. Like your mother fucking existence depends on it because it does. You can keep living stuck AF or you can start making changes. YES changes.
Draft your opportunities
How can you create them if you don’t even have a vision yet? Here’s what you need to do. Take some big deep breathes, close your eyes…kidding about closing your eyes. I mean how else are you going to read this? Ok so back to big deep breaths. Start picturing what those opportunities you want in your life look like. What do you really want to start creating? Now just make a list! Hang it on your wall and everyday check off a few boxes that will get you closer and closer to opportunities that you want in your life.
Emphasis on YOU. There’s this pretty cool thing about life where everyone gets to decide what they want. The opportunities I want are not going to be the same as yours. We are each building our own unique empire of awesome-ness. On your opportunities list start putting a ton of your own glitter into it. Craft that list to be all you. Don’t get hung up on someone else’s opportunities. Build your own, badass.
Never Shut Up
Seriously. Never. How do you expect people or the universe the even know what opportunities you are looking for if you are silent. If you have a passion and you want new opportunities to fall from the sky, you better start talking. People will start to notice. In fact, the longer you stay loud and obnoxious, the more people are going to come flocking to you. Trust me. I’m living this. Please stop hiding and start blasting it from the roof tops. If you lose the desire to talk about your passion, you instantly lose the desire to create incredible experiences in your life. Dead.
How much longer are you going to wait? You have to stop dicking around. If you have something inside of you and you are keeping it there, you are going to literally die with it. It’s not going to magically come to fruition. The magic is YOU. Please take action today. That includes everything in your life. There’s nothing that I hate worse than seeing people not enjoying their life because they are waiting for that perfect opportunity to handed to them. It’s not going to be.
How many times have you said no, just to watch everyone else moving forward? You only get that one phone call, that one last kiss, that one chance at free tickets to see your favorite person speak, that one meet up with friends over drinks, that one networking opportunity. You can never get those back. You want a business and a life that is full of opportunities, start making them.
There are so many people that just need a jump start to their heart. Please read these words and then decide that you are going take action. You don’t have to wake up another day wishing shit was happening. Just start making it happen. Write that list and then get up and hustle your ass off. You are the special sauce, you are the magic that this world needs.
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About the Author
I’m SAMANTHA PARKER, the cofounder of Badassery Magazine.
Now I’m teaching others how to build their own online empires. Yes, empires. I believe that building and nurturing a sense community with your business is the key to massive success.